Have you ever ended up trapped on a really bad date and had to spend hours with someone you knew from the start you were never going to see again? That happens all the time with online dating. But there is an easy way to avoid it. Even though it sounds more like a job interview than a date a pre-date interview is a perfect way to find out in advance if someone you’ve been talking to online is someone that you want to date.


These days dating feels a lot like a job interview. You put your profile on a dating site and hope that you get matched with someone that is compatible the same way that you post your resume on a job site and hope to find the perfect job. Your online dating profile is really like an online dating resume. And just like when you’re trying to find a job having a quick interview with someone that you’ve been matched with is a great way to find out if there is a connection before you commit to spending an entire evening getting to know each other further.

Even though it sounds formal a pre-date interview doesn’t have to be formal. It can be a quick cup of coffee at your favorite coffee place or a drink at your favorite bar. The difference between a pre-date interview and an actual date is that a pre-date interview is designed to be a quick meeting that lasts no longer than 30 minutes. This is enough time to see if you have any chemistry with that person and if they are as interesting as they sounded online but not so much time that you feel trapped if the chemistry just isn’t there.

Coffee Break

The best way to have a pre-date interview is to set up a meeting during your lunch hour or break from work. That way you have the perfect excuse to end the encounter by telling that person that you have to get back to work. So if you have been chatting with someone on a dating site and you think that you might want to go on a date with them ask to meet you for a quick coffee on your break or for a quick sandwich on your lunch break. You won’t have to stress about how you look or what to wear because you will be dressed professionally for work. And if the meeting goes well you can make arrangements to meet for dinner or a movie at a later time. But if it doesn’t go well you can end the encounter and go back to work without wasting more than 30 minutes of your time or wasting their time.

Using smart tactics like a pre-date interview will make you a more successful online dater and cut down on the amount of time that you have to spend with people that seem like they might be a good match online but that you just don’t spark with once you actually meet.